A new boss. A restructuring. Someone talking over you in a meeting. What if those arrows could become flowers?

In Buddhism, Mara is what keeps us from waking up. It shows up as fear, doubt, and clinging to who we think we are, or how we think things should go.

The story goes like this. The Buddha sat beneath the bodhi tree, and Mara sent armies with swords to stop him from reaching enlightenment. When the weapons reached him, they turned into flowers.

My Sangha has been reading Pema Chödrön's book When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times. She writes that when we respond to the inevitable arrows of life with self-reflection instead of aggression or blame (toward ourselves or others), we turn them into flowers.

Her take: "Rather than trying to get rid of something or buying into a dualistic sense of being attacked, we take the opportunity to see how we close down when we're squeezed. This is how we open our hearts. It is how we awaken our intelligence."

In practice, we turn swords into flowers when we notice what stings or unsettles us and soften around it, breathing into it, dropping the story, and meeting it with kindness.

Here's how this plays out at work.

A new boss

Sword: Your footing is gone.

Flower: Beginner's mind. Seeing a new boss as a potential teacher, not a threat.

Someone always interrupts you

Sword: The flash of feeling dismissed or belittled.

Flower: Feeling the squeeze without getting hooked by it.

What's stinging for you right now? And what might happen if you softened around it instead of bracing against it?

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